--- title: "The Bad Cop and the Girl with Painted Nails: the Theatre of Loyalty in Corporations" date: 2026-03-23 description: "The resilience of one who knows he cannot win against a system larger than himself, yet refuses to lose his sense of the absurd." author: "Petru Cojocaru" categories: - name: "Personal development" url: "https://cojocarupetru.info/personal-development.md" --- # The Bad Cop and the Girl with Painted Nails: the Theatre of Loyalty in Corporations *From the cold notification to absurd negotiations — how corporations see us when they ask for more money.* > 'Put a little soul into that bill, would you!' --- **The problem — shameless price hikes[![The Bad Cop and the Girl with Painted Nails: the Theatre of Loyalty in Corporations](https://cojocarupetru.info/images/Dezvoltare-personala/unghii-colorate-fidelizare.jpg "The Bad Cop and the Girl with Painted Nails: the Theatre of Loyalty in Corporations")](https://cojocarupetru.info/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=355:loyalty&catid=39:personal-development&lang=en-GB&Itemid=503)** A few days ago, something happened to a friend of mine that happens to all of us, in fact, at regular intervals, like a clock of administrative misfortune: he received a notification from his mobile operator. The message was brief, dry and — most painfully of all — utterly devoid of any trace of regret. A cold, almost robotic communication in which Orange informed him that, 'due to the economic situation', it found itself obliged to increase his monthly plan by 6% of its current value. No apology. Not a single tear. Not even a 'We're sorry, but…' that might at least preserve the illusion that one is dealing with human beings. In place of that basic humanity, the message conveyed something along the lines of: 'It happens. Pay up. Everything else is your problem.' And so the question arises — the one that crosses each of our minds whenever we are treated as a contract number: *Could you, dear operator, put a little soul into that bill?* That's all. Make us feel, just once, important, valued, unique. Because, honestly, if you managed to make me feel special, I'd happily add a few extra percentage points myself, just so you didn't suffer. But no, that's not possible. Instead of soul, we receive an SMS that reads as though it was drafted by a firm of solicitors specialising in the loss of clients. ## Moment Zero This first stage — the price-rise announcement — is, at its core, moment zero in the relationship between corporation and customer. The manner in which this announcement is made says far more than the figure itself. A 6% increase can be explained, discussed, and perhaps even accepted, if it is accompanied by a modicum of transparency and respect. But when it arrives in the form of a throwaway sentence, in which the only subject is 'the economic situation' (that phantom invoked to justify every price rise, from bread to broadband), the customer understands that there is, in fact, no relationship at all. There is only a charge and a payment deadline. Reflecting on this experience afterwards, the author of the original text observed something that many of us have felt without being able to articulate: the message was a kind of embodiment of the bad cop from American films. That tough, impassive type who appears in the opening scene of an interrogation to frighten you, to make you feel you haven't a hope. In *Basic Instinct*, for instance, it's the stout, impenetrable detective who sits there, heavy and immovable, whilst Michael Douglas — the good cop — was busy ogling something else entirely. In this corporate equation, the price-increase notification plays the role of the bad cop: its purpose is to hit you, to knock you off balance, and to prepare you for the next step. Which next step? The entrance of the good cop, naturally. Because, just as in the films, once the brute force of the system has been demonstrated, someone arrives who speaks to you softly, who seems to be on your side. At telecoms companies, this role is played by the retention department — those people who ring you up precisely after you have received the bad news, to 'help you find the best solution'. --- ### Enter the 'Good Cop' — the Girl with Painted Nails The day after the ice-cold notification, the positive character rang. A delicate voice, all sugar and roses. A young woman, as I imagined her, with brightly painted nails, which I could hear chipping away at the keyboard whilst she searched for 'the most optimal option'. Those were the nails tapping nervously on the keys, a sign that she was doing her utmost, outdoing herself to offer me, in practice, everything that could possibly be offered. She seemed prepared to give me even the 'O' from the company's name. This is the classic mechanism of emotional manipulation in customer services: after you have been frightened by an official letter, a warm, friendly person appears who addresses you by name, who listens to you and who seems to understand that you are dissatisfied. This person has nothing whatsoever to do with the decision to raise prices — on the contrary, she is there to rescue you from it. Or at least, that is how she wants to appear. In reality, what this 'good cop' does is manage the emotional fallout from the decision taken by the 'bad cop'. She cannot change the price rise. She cannot rescind the notification. But she can, through a well-calibrated conversation, make you forget your initial fury and cling to an offer which, though no better than the one you already had, comes wrapped in a human relationship. Or at least in the illusion of one. The dialogue began as all dialogues of this kind begin. The representative explained that she 'perfectly understood my dissatisfaction' and was 'doing everything in her power to find an advantageous solution'. The solutions began to flow, all of them languid and shrouded in a mystery revealed exclusively to me. They were, of course, the same standard offers extended to any customer who rings up threatening to leave, but they were presented to me as though they had been retrieved specially on my behalf from some secret database. First offer: 'If you extend your contract for the next 24 months, we can offer you the opportunity to purchase a handset on an instalment plan.' Which is to say, translated freely: if you tie yourself down for another two years, we'll allow you to give us more money, in instalments, for a phone. There was something delightfully absurd about the moment: rather than being offered something for free, I was being offered the opportunity to pay more. And yet the conversation continued in the same warm tone, as though this 'opportunity' were some kind of gift. What followed was a negotiation that seemed to take place in a parallel universe, where arithmetic operated according to its own rules. I said that my plan included 24 GB of data for use within the EU, and that I would like more data whilst remaining at the same price. The response: 'I can offer you 22 GB on a plan that's 2 euros cheaper.' In other words, rather than receiving more, I was being offered less — only cheaper. It was as though I had asked for an orange and been told: 'We don't have oranges, but we can give you half a lemon at a 20% discount.' At that point I was reminded of the news story I had recently seen about members of Parliament who could not decide whether 23 votes were fewer than 26. Look, either I scraped through primary school by dodgy means, or the world has well and truly gone off the rails. How can you offer me less and expect me to be pleased? Negotiation in customer services sometimes seems to rest on the assumption that the customer cannot count, or that he is so overwhelmed by the affability of his interlocutor that he forgets what he actually wanted. --- ## The Absurd Negotiation — Less Instead of More What, in fact, is this negotiation between a customer and a telecoms operator? In theory, it ought to be a dialogue in which a balance is sought between the customer's needs and the company's offering. In practice, it resembles rather more a game of chess in which one party — the company — has all its pieces hidden, whilst the other — the customer — must guess the moves from a standardised repertoire. The customer says: I want more data at the same price. The company replies: we can't do that, but we can give you less data at a lower price. The customer says: I don't want a lower price, I want more data. The company replies: in that case we can offer you some headphones. The customer says: I don't want headphones. The company: you can take them on an instalment plan. The customer: I don't want anything on an instalment plan. The company: then perhaps you'd like the latest handset model, on instalments. And so it continues, in a carousel of offers that bear no relation whatsoever to what the customer originally asked for. It is like going to a restaurant, ordering soup, and being told by the waiter: 'We don't have soup, but we can bring you an empty bowl and a glass of water, and if you pay in advance for 24 meals, we'll throw in a fork.' It is absurd, but in the world of telecoms this type of negotiation has become so commonplace that no one is surprised by it any more. What makes this negotiation stranger still is the fact that it unfolds almost invariably in an extremely cordial tone. The representative keeps the smile in her voice, assures me that she is 'rooting for me', that she 'understands', that she is 'doing everything possible'. She becomes, in my eyes, an ally against her own company. And for a moment I almost forget that she is, in fact, there to persuade me to remain on the same scheme — possibly with a longer contract, possibly with a phone purchased on instalments, possibly with a plan offering less data but two euros cheaper. There is a profound disconnect between what the customer desires — a gesture of loyalty, an acknowledgement of long-standing custom, a genuine improvement in service — and what the company is prepared to offer: accessory products on instalments, minor discounts on diminished services, contract extensions. It is as though we were speaking different languages. The customer speaks the language of relationship, of trust, of symbols. The company speaks only the language of the contract, of terms and conditions, of monthly instalments. --- ## Cheap Pride — What Loyalty Really Means 'I didn't want headphones, I don't want a phone, I don't want anything that would harness me to 24 months of payments. I just wanted a few measly extra GB, I wanted something free, something to tickle my loyalty.' This phrase from the original text says, in fact, everything about what a customer is looking for when he sits down to negotiate with his operator. It is not about money — or not only about money. It is about a feeling of recognition. After years of paying bills on time, after years of being a 'loyal customer', one expects the company to take a step towards you. A step that is not calculated exclusively in terms of profit margins. Of course, there is pride at play here, as the author acknowledges: a large pride, but a cheap one. I am not asking for a car, not for shares in the company, not for a holiday in the Maldives. I am asking for something symbolic. Send me a bottle of wine. Tell me I am a valued customer. Adopt a cat on my behalf. Do something that does not appear in any cost spreadsheet, something that shows that, beyond the loyalty algorithm, there is a human being who has understood that I, too, am human. But this never happens. Because in the logic of the modern corporation, loyalty is not rewarded — it is exploited. The loyal customer is not seen as a long-standing partner deserving of respect, but as a reliable source of revenue, one who can be pressured into accepting ever more in exchange for the same benefits. Or fewer. And here lies the most ironic part of the whole situation. Companies spend millions of euros on 'loyalty' campaigns, on rewards programmes, on studies into how to retain their customers. But at the moment of truth — when the customer is on the phone saying 'make me stay' — the only response is a catalogue of products available on instalments. It is like trying to save a marriage by buying your spouse a new frying pan, on a two-year payment plan. And so, instead of a gesture of gratitude, one receives a proposal to incur debt. Instead of a gift, one receives a credit offer. Instead of a 'thank you for being with us', one receives a 'if you sign up for another two years, we'll allow you to pay in instalments for a phone you never asked for'. --- ### Between Pride and Resignation — the Human Constants Behind the Negotiation When I put the phone down, after the 'painted nails' had finally exhausted their patience, I sat for a while staring at the screen. I had not obtained any extra data, nor even a symbolic gesture. But in the silence that followed, I realised that this whole story — from the cold notification to the conversation with the delicate voice — was not merely a failed negotiation. It was a small mirror of things far older than Orange, older than the internet, older than any corporation. I recalled a phrase from Sophocles that I had read on an old server, left there like a silent message: *'Many things are frightening, but nothing is more frightening than man.'* And I understood that this entire dance between myself and the company was, in fact, a re-enactment of **human constants** that neither artificial intelligence nor the most sophisticated billing systems can ever erase. #### Fear of the Stranger — Primitive Xenophobia in the Age of SMS The cold notification was, to my archaic brain, an intruder, an 'other' who did not speak my language. Primitive tribes survived through mistrust of strangers; today that same mistrust manifests as irritation at a standardised message. 'Put some soul into that bill!' was, in fact, a cry for belonging to the same tribe. #### The Hubris of the Corporation and of the Customer The Greeks called hubris the arrogance that makes one forget one is mortal. Orange displayed hubris by sending a price increase with no human explanation whatsoever, as though it were above any moral obligation. But I, too, had my own hubris, demanding a bottle of wine and an adopted cat as though they were divine rights. #### Panem et Circenses — Bread and Circuses in the Commercial Offer Instead of more data, I was offered a phone on instalments. Exactly as in ancient Rome: emperors kept the populace content with bread and spectacles so they would not dwell on inequalities. Today, corporations offer shiny gadgets to distract attention from genuine dissatisfaction. #### Word versus Deed — the Eternal Discrepancy 'We offer you the opportunity to purchase' sounded like generosity, but meant in practice 'we'll sell it to you in instalments'. Hypocrisy is as old as the world, and this conversation was a small theatre of the contradiction between promise and reality. #### Misunderstanding — the Tower of Babel of Negotiators I was saying 'I want more data', she was hearing 'I want to be persuaded to stay'. Wittgenstein was right: the limits of language are the limits of the world. In that conversation, our worlds were too far apart. #### Vanity — Cheap Pride Ecclesiastes said three thousand years ago: *'Vanitas vanitatum, omnia vanitas.'* And I, in my cheap pride, wanted to be important, cherished, unique — if only in the eyes of a telephone company. A shadow on the wall of Plato's cave. #### Curiosity — Opening Pandora's Box Pandora opened the box from which all the world's ills escaped. Eve bit into the apple of knowledge. I stayed on the phone because I wanted to see whether the 'good cop' truly existed. Curiosity leads us into traps — but it also gives us hope. #### Self-Deception — the Mind That Lies to Itself The smoker knows that smoking kills, yet carries on. I knew the negotiation would come to nothing, yet told myself that perhaps, this time, I might receive something for free. Nietzsche said that man is the only animal capable of lying to himself and believing the lie. #### The Struggle Between Reason and Passion — Plato's Dark Horse Plato described the soul as a chariot drawn by two horses: one white (reason), one dark (passion). In that conversation, passion — pride, frustration, hope — seized the reins. Reason knew I hadn't a chance, but passion kept me on the phone. #### Cyclicality — the Serpent That Bites Its Own Tail Ouroboros, the eternal symbol of the cycle. The same story repeats itself with every price rise, with every negotiation. Winter does not last for ever, but neither does spring. So it is with mobile operators: the cycle of dissatisfaction–negotiation–acceptance–forgetting begins again, endlessly. --- ## Conclusion — When Philosophy Meets the Bill At the end of it all, I was left with the same bill, increased by 6%, and with the feeling that I had participated in an ancient ritual dressed up as customer service. All the human constants had been present: fear of the stranger, hubris, panem et circenses, the discrepancy between word and deed, the Tower of Babel of misunderstanding, the vanity of cheap pride, the curiosity that makes us open Pandora's box, self-deception, the struggle between reason and passion, and the endless cyclicality of it all. I gained nothing material. But I gained an understanding: that beneath the glow of screens and the fever of novelty, there is something that does not move at all. The human condition. The very same that drove poets to write of love and loss, philosophers to seek meaning, inventors to strive ever further. And customers to hope, always, that beyond the cold notification, there remains a human being willing to say: 'We're sorry. Let's talk.' Until that day comes, I remain with my pride — large, but cheap — and with the certainty that, however much technology changes, man will remain that same creature who, several thousand years ago, stared at the shadows on the wall of a cave and gave them the names of gods. --- ## Questions and Answers - **What do 'the bad cop' and 'the good cop' symbolise in the text?***Answer:* 'The bad cop' is the cold price-rise notification, designed to frighten the customer. 'The good cop' is the call-centre representative who, through a warm tone, attempts to repair the relationship and persuade the customer to stay, by offering products on an instalment plan. - **Why does the author feel frustrated by the offer of '22 GB on a plan 2 euros cheaper'?***Answer:* Because he had asked for more data at the same price, whereas the offer was, in fact, a reduction in service (fewer GB) in exchange for a small reduction in price. From his perspective, it was nonsensical. - **What connection does the author draw between the negotiation and the news story about MPs?***Answer:* The author sees a parallel between the arithmetic absurdity in politics (23 vs. 26 votes) and the absurdity of the commercial offer (fewer GB for 2 euros less), suggesting that elementary reasoning sometimes appears to have been abandoned in both spheres. - **What does 'large pride, but cheap' mean?***Answer:* It is an ironic expression through which the author acknowledges that he desires recognition and consideration from the company, yet is asking for nothing costly — merely a symbolic gesture, such as a bottle of wine or a kind word. - **What are the principal 'human constants' identified in the text?***Answer:* Fear of the stranger (primitive xenophobia), hubris (arrogance), panem et circenses (distraction through products), the discrepancy between word and deed, misunderstanding (the Tower of Babel), vanity, curiosity (Pandora's box), self-deception, the conflict between reason and passion, cyclicality. - **How does the author explain the fact that he did not hang up immediately?***Answer:* Through curiosity — that human trait that led Pandora to open the box. The author wanted to see whether the 'good cop' truly existed and whether he might obtain something unexpected. - **What critique does the author level at loyalty programmes?***Answer:* He criticises the fact that these programmes do not reward loyalty but exploit it, turning the customer into a reliable revenue stream whilst offering in return only products on instalments, which in reality place him in debt. - **What is the significance of 'panem et circenses' in the context of the text?***Answer:* It is the metaphor for the offer of phones and headphones on instalments as a tool for distracting attention from the genuine grievance (the price rise, the lack of transparency) — exactly as the Roman emperors used bread and circuses to quell social discontent. - **How is hubris reflected in the behaviour of the company and of the customer?***Answer:* The company displays hubris through the cold notification, which disregards the human dimension of the relationship. The customer displays hubris through the expectation that a corporation should treat him as a special, almost divine, being. - **What role does self-deception play in the negotiation?***Answer:* The customer deceives himself into believing he might receive a free gesture, even though experience tells him the offers are merely products on instalments. The company deceives itself into believing that its offers are genuinely advantageous for the customer. - **Why is 'misunderstanding' important to the author as a philosophical theme?***Answer:* Because it shows that, although both parties were speaking the same language, each was interpreting the words in entirely different ways — a phenomenon the author likens to the Tower of Babel, where the languages were confounded. - **What does the author understand by the 'cyclicality' of the relationship with operators?***Answer:* He observes that the same pattern — price rise, dissatisfaction, negotiation, acceptance — repeats itself periodically, akin to the cycles of nature or the rise and fall of empires. - **How does the text connect to the concept of 'memento mori'?***Answer:* Memento mori (remember that you will die) appears indirectly in the discussion of vanity: knowing that life is short, the author desires not to squander it on absurd negotiations, but to receive an authentic human gesture. - **What solution does the author propose for escaping this spiral?***Answer:* He proposes no practical solution, but an attitudinal one: lucidity. The recognition of human constants and of manipulation mechanisms is, for him, the first form of resistance. - **What final message does the text convey about the relationship between the individual and the corporation?***Answer:* That, however technologically advanced the world may become, the fundamental relationship remains tensioned by the same archaic impulses — fear, arrogance, the desire for recognition — and that the true gain is not material, but lies in the understanding of these mechanisms. --- ## Online Bibliography - **The original text that inspired the article** Author unknown, published on forums / personal blogs. Reference: the fragment beginning with *'A few days ago, I received a notification from Orange…'* (source unidentified, used as a starting point). - **The Incontestable Constants of the Human Condition** Servicii Web Alex, *'55. Truths or Incontestable Constants of the Human Condition'*, published 13 November 2025. 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But it loses itself in its own literary narcissism, in references that function as backdrop rather than skeleton, and in a rhetoric that confuses length with depth. It turns a legitimate grievance into a drawing-room tragedy, in which the customer is a martyr and the bill is fate. A pity that, instead of cutting to the bone with structural critique, it is content to admire itself in its own philosophical wound. **The text's acknowledged exaggerations:** The list of 'human constants' (Hubris, *Panem et circenses*, the Tower of Babel, Ouroboros, Plato's dark horse, etc.) is, in essence, a **copy-and-cite exercise**. The references are not organically integrated into the argument; they are tossed about like labels on an IKEA shelf, in the hope that the weight of the names will serve as a substitute for depth. Sophocles, Ecclesiastes, Nietzsche and Kahneman are invoked to validate a call-centre frustration, but the text does no more than paraphrase their titles. This is not philosophical reflection — it is intellectual décor. When the author writes that 'all the human constants were present', he demonstrates nothing; he merely enumerates. Philosophy is not done with commas, but with rigour. --- *Source: https://cojocarupetru.info/ | Automatically generated for AI indexing*